Breaking the Stigma: Exploring the Emotional Toll of Infertility and the Importance of Mental Health Support

Infertility is a common but little-discussed problem. It is a medical condition that affects millions of people around the world. With such a high prevalence, you’d think infertility would be widely accepted and understood. But it’s not. The emotional toll of infertility can be immense, and the stigma surrounding it is real.

It is often seen as a taboo topic; it is important to break the silence and open up the conversation about infertility and its emotional toll.

While there is a lot of focus on the physical aspects of infertility, it is also important to acknowledge the mental health impact of the condition. Mental health is a vital part of overall health, and it is important to seek help if you are struggling with your mental health.

This blog discusses the emotional toll of infertility and the importance of mental health. It aims to break the stigma surrounding infertility and provide support for those who are struggling to conceive.

Coping With the Emotional Rollercoaster

The journey to having a child can take many turns and oftentimes be filled with high highs and low lows. Coping with the emotional roller coaster of infertility can be a difficult task that can be mentally and physically exhausting.

The hardest part of dealing with the emotional roller coaster of infertility is accepting that it’s part of the process. We often expect that things will work out the way we imagine them to, only to be met with disappointment. This disappointment can create feelings of helplessness and powerlessness.

It’s important to reach out to trusted family or friends for support when you are feeling overwhelmed. Talking about what you’re going through can help to normalize the experience and help you to feel less alone.

If you’re finding it a struggle to cope with the emotional toll of infertility, it may be beneficial to seek professional help. Seeing a psychologist, counsellor or therapist who can help you to develop strategies to manage your emotions can be a great way to cope and feel supported.

The Importance of Seeking Professional Help

The importance of seeking professional help when dealing with the emotional toll of infertility cannot be overstated. It is often hard to talk about one's feelings and experiences of infertility as there is still a stigma attached to it and many people feel embarrassed or ashamed to discuss it.

However, seeking professional help can be a great way to manage the emotions associated with infertility and feel supported through the journey. A trained psychologist, counsellor or therapist can provide the space and understanding to talk about your experiences, as well as help to develop skills and strategies to cope with different emotions.

Moreover, therapy can provide a sense of safety and validation; knowing that someone is listening who understands and believes in you can be immensely calming and can go a long way in helping to manage the emotional toll of infertility. It can also be a place to turn to when you feel lonely and isolated and can help to reduce the sense of shame and embarrassment related to infertility.

Infertility Is Not Just A "Woman's Problem"

It is important to remember that infertility is not a “woman’s problem”. Both men and women can have fertility issues, and in about a third of cases, infertility is caused by a male factor.

Therefore, creating the social understanding and acceptance that infertility can affect both partners is essential. This understanding would not only reduce the stigma and shame surrounding infertility, but it would also allow men to be seen and heard, providing them with opportunities to speak up and discuss their experiences.

Moreover, male infertility is often neglected and ignored, leading to many men feeling as though their experience of infertility does not matter as much. This can lead to feelings of guilt and inadequacy, further contributing to the emotional toll of infertility. Therefore, it is important that infertility is seen not just as a “woman’s problem” but as a human issue.

Let's Break the Stigma

Ending the stigma around infertility is an essential step towards providing more support, understanding and resources to those struggling with infertility. By understanding the psychological ramifications of infertility, more people can be empowered to help the person going through it.

In addition to supporting couples and individuals going through infertility, providing more education and resources around infertility can help to create greater awareness and understanding of the issue.

It is also important to create and support solutions-focused dialogue and conversations around infertility. Offering more options to those struggling with infertility will help open a dialogue and potentially create more awareness, education, and acceptance around infertility and mental health.

Finally, breaking the stigma around infertility requires addressing existing gender and cultural norms and creating a safe and open space for individuals and couples to discuss their concerns. By doing so, we can begin to reduce the emotional toll infertility puts on individuals and couples, and create greater collective understanding, acceptance, and support.


Dr Shubhra Goyal is consultant obstetrician and gynaecologist who specializes in gynae endoscopy and infertility.

Breaking the stigma around infertility requires us to not only talk about it openly, but to also make available resources, support networks and required care to those struggling with it.

Dr. Shubhra Goyal, is a specialized gynaecologist, endoscopist, and clinical specialist for infertility. We, at her clinic, believe in working in collaboration with individuals and couples to come up with the best possible solution to their problem.

We understand the emotional toll infertility can take on someone, and we strive to provide couples not only with the required medical care but also with the resources and emotional support they need to make the right decisions.

If you or someone you know is struggling with infertility, we invite you to connect with us through one of our online consultation services, or alternatively, you can visit our clinic located in Delhi, India.

Together, we can break down the existing stigmas and provide individuals with the necessary resources and support to make the best decisions for themselves.


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